I was looking over the latest issue of Christianisme aujourd’hui today via the internet and came across a marvellous article by Nancy Decorvet on the subject of why so many Christians divorce. Chrisitanisme aujourd’hui is published in France, the name translates to Christianity Today, but it has no affiliation with the US magazine of that name.
Mme. Decorvet lists ten reasons why the marriages of Christians break up. All of them are worth repeating, but I will only mention the first one in this post – neglect of family worship. That struck a chord with me. I began to think of all the Christian couples I have known who have broken up, those who have continued to live together under the same roof in a strained and distant relationship, and those who have abandoned all attempts to appear Christian, either together or separately. Each of those couples abandoned family worship as soon as they had problems in their relationships.
I grew up in a home where Bible reading and prayer were a fixture of every day. My wife grew up in a home where the Bible was never read, prayers never made. Yet she was the one who insisted right from the start that we should have a daily time of family worship, and that I should take the lead. I was reluctant, because I felt my father’s self-righteous example was one I did not wish to follow.
Looking back, I believe my father was searching for something that he never quite got a grip on. That made him frustrated and the frustration made him inflexible, trying to hold on to that part that he believed he did have. So that was not a good example of how to have family worship.
I guess you could say that my wife and I both came from dysfunctional homes, and our home has been dysfunctional at times, too. Family worship has been a time to let God speak to us through His Word, and for us to speak to God about our needs and problems and to pray for the needs and struggles of others. Little by little, we have learned to trust that God will have a way for us and that He will show us His way if we stop struggling to uphold our own opinions.
This time spent in family worship is the cornerstone of a solid family relationship. Families are the building blocks of the church; if the family begins to disintegrate, how can the church stand?
Yet not everyone in the church is part of a family unit. Consequently, we need to feel that we are all one family and be aware of the spiritual needs of each other. The times when we have been in a home in the evening and before we left the hosts brought out the Bible and we spent a few moments in Bible reading and prayer have been times of spiritual refreshing.